Since I’ve noticed *a lot* of rants about this passing around, I think I should give you some proper tips on: PREGNANCY.
** Note: This is a link filled, probably gross tip post if you find pregnant ladies holding spawns of satan kind of weird or nasty.
- Be aware of the time span.
Yes. Pretty obvious, I would think. You got this baby hanging out inside your character for the next nine months. NINE. That’s a lot of days. You have to think about this in the long run. Babies are not speed demons in the oven, ya dig? At 21 weeks - even then it’s unlikely that your baby will survive if you really insist on popping that sucker out. So be sure that you want to actually go on with this plot if waiting is your favorite thing.
No, not on the inside, man. It’s what outside that matters here. Most people assume that pregnancy = looking pregnant. No.
- You won’t be showing right away. - On average, your character will start showing around 12 - 17 weeks. That’s still a long time.
- Sometimes you show sooner. If it’s your character’s first pregnancy - you probably won’t be showing until much later. If it’s not the first, they show much sooner. That’s because your little baby oven is already used to the stretching and doesn’t take as long. (Technical terms, I know.)
As a way to get a general idea of what your character look like as they progresses during pregnancy is flip books.
- Flip book of 40 weeks of pregnancy: There is a photo for every week after 9 - you can see what it looks like every week, and where you start showing.
- Miscarriage versus, well, anything else
Miscarriage is only up to a certain point in your character’s pregnancy, up to 23 weeks. After that point, they are no longer considered miscarriages and labelled either stillborn, or premature. (If the child survives.)
- At up to six weeks only small blood clots may be present, possibly accompanied by mild cramping or period pain.
- At 6 to 13 weeks a clot will form around the embryo or fetus, and the placenta, with many clots up to 5 cm in size being expelled prior to completion of the process. The process may take a few hours or be on and off for a few days. Symptoms vary widely and may include vomiting and loose bowels, possibly due to physical discomfort.
- At more than 13 weeks the fetus may be passed easily from the uterus, however the placenta is more likely to be fully or partially retained in the uterus, resulting in an incomplete abortion. The physical signs of bleeding, cramping, and pain may be similar to an early stage abortion, but sometimes more severe and labour-like.
Most of these miscarriages occur during the first trimester. After 24 weeks, it’s considered a stillborn.
- IMPORTANT: IT IS POSSIBLE TO LOSE A CHILD AFTER THE FIRST TRIMESTER. Many people don’t believe that this is true. It can happen. If you go into the miscarriage forums on pregnancy sites, there are dozens of women who have lost their child at 22 weeks and even more.
- The hospital will rarely attempt to “save” the child’s life before 22 weeks. Before then, the lungs are developed just enough to give the child up to an hour of life.
- Who Should Your Character Tell?
If they insist on telling someone during the first trimester - where miscarriages are fairly common, make sure it’s someone they can trust with knowing that in case a miscarriage happens. Close family, possibly close friends. If your character tells everyone and loses the baby, it’s a bit, well, bad. A bit more depressing than it needs to be. Ya dig?
I’m going to make the assumption that people know how a natural/normal birth works. For the most part it’s the same as a c-section, only after the epidural there’s a bit more pushing involved. The source for everything listed below: right here.
- Your character’s partner is going to be with your character, unless it’s an emergency.
- Your character will get an epidural. Trust me, this will hurt A LOT.
- A catheter is then inserted into your character’s urethra to drain urine during the procedure, and an IV is started (for fluids and medications) if they don’t have one already.
- Anesthesia will be administered, and a screen will be raised above your character’s waist so they won’t have to see the incision being made.
- Your character’s partner is going to be able to sit up near the character’s head.
- Then the doctor will reach in and pull out your character’s baby. Once the cord is cut, they’ll have a chance to see the baby briefly before he’s handed off to a pediatrician or nurse. While the staff is examining your newborn, the doctor will deliver the placenta and then begin the process of closing your character up.
- After the baby has been examined, the pediatrician or nurse may hand him to your character’s partner, who can hold him right next to them so they can admire, nuzzle, and kiss him while your character is being stitched up, layer-by-layer.
- The final layer – the skin – may be closed with stitches or staples, which are usually removed three days to a week later (or your doctor may choose to use stitches that dissolve on their own). Closing the uterus and belly will take a lot longer than opening you up, usually about 30 minutes.
- After effects of C-Section
After a routine cesarean section, expect to be monitored closely for the next 24 hours to make sure that you don’t develop any problems. You will receive pain medicine and will likely be encouraged to begin walking short distances within 24 hours of surgery. Walking can help relieve gas buildup in the abdomen. It is usually very uncomfortable to begin walking, but the pain will decrease in the days after the delivery.
The typical hospital stay after a cesarean delivery is about 3 days. You can feed and care for your newborn as you feel able. Before going home, you’ll receive postsurgery instructions, including warning signs of complications. It can take 4 weeks or more for a cesarean incision to heal, and it isn’t unusual to have occasional pains in the area during the first year after the surgery. - Source
Your character will probably be miserable. Many mothers insist that it’s not worth it to get a C-Section - while it may be less than an hour to complete, you’re in pain much longer than a normal birth.
If something doesn’t make sense, or if you’d like for me to elaborate on normal birth or anything else, send me a message! HERE is an excellent link for another tip collection on pregnancy character. They kind of filled in on the stuff I didn’t.